Christmas childhood memories of family, favorite gifts, and helicopters

Weekly column in the Washington Times Communities by Laurie Edwards-Tate

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Christmas was always a wonderful experience growing up in San Diego, California.

The concept of a white Christmas is not entirely lost on those who live in warm climates. But in sunny San Diego, the experience of dashing through the snow is completely foreign. Even though December is the coolest month of the year in San Diego, the average is still in the high 60s. Temperatures of 75 degrees or more are not uncommon during Christmas week. The all time record: 88 degrees! Average rainfall is just one and a half inches for the whole month. Local attractions do their best, bringing out the snow machines and create artificial snow to delight California children.

But, how did Santa Claus ever deliver so many presents when it never snowed in San Diego, California?  Most homes did not have fireplaces, though they are much in vogue today in Southern California, though merely as decoration.

At five years old, we spent Christmas staying with my aunt and her family in their splendid San Diego home that year.  On Christmas Eve, my dad and I were peering outside a large, picture window, looking of course for Santa Claus, his reindeer, and the promise of all his presents.  Suddenly fear gripped me as reality hit a child’s mind.

“Daddy, how can Santa deliver all our presents with his reindeer, if there is no snow!”  Never mind that presents arriving had never been a problem on any past Christmas, and most five year olds know it might be wrong to ask such a pointed question.

Dad took his time answering. He gave it so much thought, it occurred to me that maybe my question had some merit after all!

Cherished memories of the family Christmas tree live in black and white for many of us. Courtesy Laurie Edwards-Tate.

“Honey, out here Santa arrives by helicopter!”  It made sense although I felt slightly uneasy with this response. Nevertheless my concerns were eased. There was no reason to be disappointed with Santa Claus the very next morning!

Next year at the far more mature age of six, I decided to investigate what I had learned the previous Christmas and see if I could prove what my Dad had told me for myself. On Christmas Eve, I let my parents think I had gone to bed. Instead, upon hearing them retire for the evening, I got up and snuck out of my bedroom. I hid behind a large, overstuffed chair in the living room.  I was awaiting the arrival of Santa Claus via helicopter, still feeling a little envious of all the children in other parts of the world who might be fortunate enough to spy Santa Claus with his reindeer.

The hot chocolate and cookies were waiting on the dining room table. I knew he hadn’t already come yet, and settled down to wait.

It was for naught. My parents caught me spying, and I was promptly sent to bed.  The next day on Christmas morning, I was very grateful for Santa Claus and forgot all about his reindeer.

Do our favorite gifts foretell the future or create the future? Either way, working in healthcare was always my destiny. I cherished my play doctor kit replete with bag, plastic stethoscope, candy pills, and a variety of patient-care tools such as bandages and such. What great fun dispensing “medications,” taking pulses, and administering first aid to patient members of my family. My doctor bag was the best. I could hardly wait for the arrival of our Christmas guests to get underway so I could practice on them too.

But no matter how many sets of play kitchen accessories, petite plastic fry pans, small oven and refrigerator, and other cookware, none would have been enough to create a Martha Stewart in the making.

Thank you for my book, Santa! Courtesy Laurie Edwards-Tate

Looking back as an adult, although I still have great fondness for my doctor bag, the greatest gift was being blessed to have large family gatherings, with great grandparents, grandparents, both my parents, aunts, uncles, and cousins on hand. It was so easy to assume everyone else’s experience was the same.  It was not possible to fathom life without them, nor the reality that slowly but surely life would change, which makes these memories of past Christmases even more precious.

Now I know all too well working with older adults that not everyone is lucky enough to be surrounded by loving family whether of blood or choice. The holidays can be a lonely time. It is incumbent upon each of us to do what we can to change this through paying forward the gift of time and fellowship with others that our families have lovingly given to us.

Until next time, enjoy the ride in good health!

LifeCycles is intended to provide inspiration and information only. If you are considering any health, dietary, exercise or lifestyle changes based on the information provided here, please seek advice from a qualified professional.
Laurie Edwards-Tate, MS, is President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare in San Diego, California. In addition to her positions as entrepreneur, health care executive, educator, radio segment contributor and media guest, Edwards-Tate is also a wife, daughter, and dog lover. Read more  LifeCycles in the Communities at The Washington Times. Follow At Your Home Familycare on Facebook and on Twitter @AYHFamilycare.
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Christina Meade and Steven Schweitzer Honored with Caring Bear Awards for Outstanding Performance

In a highly valued tradition and tribute to our most outstanding staff person of the year, At Your Home Familycare presents the “Caring Bear Award.” It signifies nothing less than appreciation for the most dedicated and caring among all administrative employees.

This year, Christina Meade was the recipient of our Caring Bear Award. A valued employee for six years, Christina is the Manager of the Administrative Services Department, and is well-respected among her peers due to her unparalleled administrative abilities, her dedication, her unwavering focus on the mission of At Your Home Familycare, and her consistent performance.

Steven Schweitzer, At Your Home Familycare Ambassador and four-year employee, was an honorable mention recipient of a Caring Bear. A winner the prior two years, Steven’s loyalty, dedication, and commitment to service is laudable and rare, and deserving of recognition.

Laurie Edwards-Tate, President and CEO, said “Words cannot describe my appreciation and esteem for Christina and Steven. Our organization is a company family, and both Christina and Steven represent what is best in our company culture which embodies client-centered service, dedicated teamwork, and genuine sense of personal responsibility for the fulfillment of their individual roles. They are role models for our entire organization.”

Everyone at At Your Home Familycare applauds Christine and Steven and wishes them continued success!

Edwards-Tate Among 2012 “Top Influentials” Nominees

At Your Home Familycare President and CEO Laurie Edwards-Tate joins an impressive list of San Diegans who have made a difference in the region’s economy, business community or specific industry as a nominee for one of 2012’s “Top Influentials” by the San Diego Daily Transcript.

Each year, the Transcript receives nominations from the community and selects honorees in several categories including Defense and Technology, Finance, Health and Life Sciences, Hospitality and Education, Law and Business Services, and Real Estate and Construction. Over 300 submissions were received, the biggest nominee pool ever. Just under 200 finalists have been selected, and the winners will be named in the Transcript on December 30, 2011.

Click here to view the full list of nominees »

LifeCycles with Laurie Edwards-Tate – #69

Good news from the IRS! This is “LifeCycles” with Laurie Edwards-Tate, At Your Home Familycare.

The IRS is going to allow higher tax deductions starting in 2012 for people who have bought private long-term care policies. The deductions range from 350 dollars to over 43-hundred dollars.

The older you are, the more tax credit you receive. Some states also give deductions, or even credits, on state taxes. Sadly only eight million people have long-term care insurance. Two-thirds of all older Americans will need some type of long term care.

Will you be prepared? Ask your financial or insurance professional whether this is something you should consider.

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Edwards-Tate Honored for Second Year at San Diego Business Journal “Most Admired CEO” Awards

AYHF President and CEO Laurie Edwards-Tate and husband Bill Tate.

AYHF President and CEO Laurie Edwards-Tate, accompanied by her husband Bill Tate, was honored as one of 75 finalists at the San Diego Business Journal’s Fifth Annual Most Admired CEO Awards at the Paradise Point Resort.

“Being recognized as one of San Diego’s most dynamic local industry leaders is an honor, especially during such challenging economic times,” said Edwards-Tate. “I am privileged to be included with this amazing group of CEOs. It was heartening to see deserving colleagues including Southern Caregivers Resource Center CEO Lorie VanTilburg, Greater San Diego Meals on Wheels CEO Debbie Case, and Employment and Community Options CEO Nancy Batterman also honored.”

Debbie Case received a Community Services Award for Nonprofit Organizations. Father Joe Carroll received the distinguished Lifetime Achievement Award.

 

 

A slide show at the event depicting the names of all the finalists.

 

 

 

AYHF President and CEO Laurie Edwards-Tate attends the 2011 San Diego Business Journal Most Admired CEO Awards event as one of the recognized finalists.

 

Red Alert: Your dinner plate color can increase what you eat

Weekly column in the Washington Times Communities by Laurie Edwards-Tate

The Christmas holiday season arrives with a cheerful and generous dose of the color red. Cheerful red lights and ornaments. Santa’s red suit. Beautiful red home décor and party favors. Many of us get out our special red Christmas themed place settings to enjoy for a few weeks.

But if you are trying to keep from overindulging in too many high calorie holiday treats, your choice of plate color could make a big difference.

A Boston University psychology study first published in 2004 found that eating food from a red plate could increase your calorie intake by 25 percent. That’s not what most of us want to hear when we are trying to keep that dreaded holiday weight gain in check.

But researchers concerned about the poor nutrition of those suffering from Alzheimer’s disease and Parkinson’s disease turned this information to their advantage. Forty percent of these patients lose a dangerously unhealthy amount of weight. The researchers wondered if this information couldn’t be put to good use.

So Boston University bio-psychologist Alice Cronin-Golomb and her research partners conducted their own study in 2010. Sure enough, their findings confirmed the earlier study.

It turns out that the explanation is a very simple one. Progressive neurological diseases affect your vision in addition to your thinking and memory. People suffering from Alzheimer’s disease cannot process visual information like they used to. They lose depth perception and contrast. This vision loss is also sometimes true for other seniors who don’t have dementia.

Using the color red at mealtime could be a powerful tool for good health.

Caregivers become frustrated when Alzheimer’s patients always seem hungry. Often they assume it’s because they forgot when they last ate, and think it must have been a long time because they can’t remember. Depression and lack of concentration have also been theories for poor eating and weight loss.

But it turns out that people suffering from Alzheimer’s disease aren’t eating enough because they cannot always see all the food on their plate. Even when individuals are encouraged and assisted with eating, Alzheimer’s patients do not finish the food on their plates. It turns out simple vision loss and the inability to process visual information plays a role in Alzhemer’s patients’ reluctance to eat. If you can’t see your food, you can’t find it and you can’t eat it.

Healthcare and caregiving professionals who have learned about these findings are switching to using red dinner plates, bowls, and even coffee mugs.

If you are a caregiver struggling with this common challenge, why not give it a try? If you want to experiment, buy red paper plates. They are easy to find this time of year among the Christmas supplies. If it works for you, take advantage of the post-holiday sales to buy some red dinnerware sets at a great price.

For the rest of us who don’t need to increase our calorie intake, we can use these studies to help us avoid seeing the number on the scale creep up at this time of year. When attending parties, don’t put holiday treats on a festive red plate. Stick with white and your waistline may thank you come January 1st.

Until next time, enjoy the ride in good health!

LifeCycles is intended to provide inspiration and information only. If you are considering any health, dietary, exercise or lifestyle changes based on the information provided here, please seek advice from a qualified professional.
Laurie Edwards-Tate, MS, is President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare in San Diego, California. In addition to her positions as entrepreneur, health care executive, educator, radio segment contributor and media guest, Edwards-Tate is also a wife, daughter, and dog lover. Read more  LifeCycles in the Communities at The Washington Times. Follow At Your Home Familycare on Facebook and on Twitter @AYHFamilycare.
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LifeCycles with Laurie Edwards-Tate – #68

Americans love their dogs. This is “LifeCycles” with Laurie Edwards-Tate, President, At Your Home Familycare.

Four out of ten homes in the U.S. own at least one dog. Study after study finds that pets bring many benefits, especially for seniors.

They encourage exercise and social contact. They help people cope with stress. They provide companionship. Physical and mental health improves almost immediately upon getting a dog.

But pet ownership is a lifelong commitment. Consider your situation and be sure to ask a professional whether having a dog is right for you.  If not, participation in a therapy dog program may be just as beneficial and enjoyable.

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Stop smoking: Stroke, heart attack, cancer, now Alzheimer’s disease

Weekly column in the Washington Times Communities by Laurie Edwards-Tate

There cannot be anyone left in America who is not aware of the dangers to your health from smoking cigarettes. We label packs of cigarettes with the direst possible warnings. We prevent most form of advertising cigarettes. We try our best to protect children from access to tobacco. We restrict exposure to cigarettes and their smoke by nonsmokers.

Nevertheless, nearly one in five Americans still smokes according to the Centers for Disease Control Eleven million of them are over the age of 50 years old, 25% of the total of nearly 44 million people. The good news: in a recent CDC study, nearly 70% of smokers say they want to quit.

Smoking remains the leading preventable cause of death and disease. Smoking and exposure to secondhand smoke kill some 443,000 people every year in the U.S. In addition, for every smoking-related death there are 20 people living with a smoking-related disease, the CDC reports.

Declare victory over cigarettes in 2012.

If cancer, heart attacks or strokes do not motivate you enough to quit smoking, how about the risk of Alzheimer’s disease? New research by Kaiser Permanente in California and the University of Eastern Finland has established a firm link between smoking and the onset of dementia in your senior years. Middle aged men and women who were at least 50 years old at the start of the study were followed for 20 years.

The results: one in four study participants were diagnosed with dementia. A quarter of these people were found to have Alzheimer’s disease, the most common form of dementia. But vascular dementia, where the brain is impaired by damage to the blood vessels, was responsible for several hundred more of the diagnoses in the study.

Since smoking is a major risk factor for stroke, it is possible that smoking contributes to vascular dementia in the same way by narrowing blood vessels and depriving brain cells of oxygen.

People who smoke two packs of cigarettes a day during middle age face a 157% increased chance of developing Alzheimer’s disease and a 172% greater risk of developing vascular dementia compared to nonsmokers.

No matter your age, you have every reason to quit now. The good news: it is never too late to quit and the benefits are almost immediate. Even if you have smoked for decades, the benefits begin within 20 minutes of your last cigarette. Your circulation and lung function will improve. Your blood pressure drops. You will have more stamina and energy due to increased ability to absorb oxygen. You may be able to reduce medication. Your social opportunities will increase because your hair, clothing, and home doesn’t smell. You will save money. Your self-esteem will soar.

According to the National Institute of Health, once they quit smoking older smokers are more likely to quit for good than younger smokers. They are more motivated to quit due to a greater impact on their health. Older smokers enjoy a feeling of relief that feeds long-term success.

Alzheimer’s is second only to cancer as the disease most feared by Americans, and with very good reason. One in eight Baby Boomers will suffer from Alzheimer’s disease. Why increase your odds unnecessarily?

Over five million Americans have been stricken with dementia including Alzheimer’s disease. This number will be swiftly rising, as the baby boomers become senior citizens. It is expected that the number of people diagnosed will be three times its current tally by the year 2050. And, according to the Alzheimer’s Association, dementia triples health care costs for those it afflicts.

If you smoke, please consider quitting. If you have a family member or friend who smokes, support their efforts to quit. Seek out programs such as the American Lung Association’s free “Freedom From Smoking” program. Senior smokers are more likely to quit for good when they have social support systems.

Every smoker who quits potentially saves their physical and their mental health, as well as saving money for themselves as individuals, and for society as a whole. Worldwide, one billion people still smoke, including three of every four men over the age of 30 in China. Truly, we have seen only the tip of the Alzheimer’s iceberg headed our way.

Until next time, enjoy the ride in good health!

LifeCycles is intended to provide inspiration and information only. If you are considering any health, dietary, exercise or lifestyle changes based on the information provided here, please seek advice from a qualified professional.
Laurie Edwards-Tate, MS, is President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare in San Diego, California. In addition to her positions as entrepreneur, health care executive, educator, radio segment contributor and media guest, Edwards-Tate is also a wife, daughter, and dog lover. Read more LifeCycles in the Communities at The Washington Times. Follow At Your Home Familycare on Facebook and on Twitter @AYHFamilycare.
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LifeCycles with Laurie Edwards-Tate – #67

Tis the season to be shopping! I’m Laurie Edwards-Tate with LifeCycles.

Trying to find the perfect gift for an older relative can be a challenge. Seniors don’t need any more slippers or soap. The gift of time means so much more. Here are a few ideas to get you thinking. Gift cards for a favorite restaurant – and a ride there. An offer to work on projects around the home. An invitation to see a play or live music. Pick the car up and take it for an oil change. Postage stamps. Photo albums filled with friends and family. Set up a Facebook page and teach someone how to use it so they can keep in touch. And we hope you will follow us there!

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Seniors want your presence for the holidays, not your presents

Weekly column in the Washington Times Communities by Laurie Edwards-Tate

Even if you have been able to ignore the ads for holiday shopping on television before Halloween, Thanksgiving week is here and you know you cannot put off buying gifts much longer.

Most people have a difficult time choosing the right gift for someone on their gift-giving list. Often it is an older relative or friend. Shopping for seniors can be perplexing. Sometimes it seems they have everything they need. Or perhaps you are simply out of touch with their current interests.

When seniors are asked what they want for holiday gifts (and birthdays and other occasions too), the answer is inevitably, “Oh, I don’t need a thing.”

While seniors who have the means generally buy what they need and want for themselves, others just do without. But they are reluctant to admit their needs. The older generations were taught to give and not receive, to be stoic and refrain from complaining.

The gift seniors treasure at Christmas: the gift of togetherness.

Whatever the reason, it still leaves family members and friends with the dilemma of what to give as gifts to their elders as a sign of love and respect.

In a survey conducted by a Salem, Oregon senior center, the leading preference was gift certificates for favorite restaurants, and a real bonus included the transportation to get there and a cheerful dining companion. (That would be you).

Other types of gift certificates were also popular. Some seniors enjoy tickets to events. Assisting with travel costs such as airline vouchers or train fare was welcome, or even credit toward a cruise. The next choice was cash.

Food gifts were welcome as long as the giver takes into account the recipient’s preferences and dietary needs. Also suggested were donations to a favorite charity.

But by a huge margin, seniors wished for time with children and grandchildren. Seniors When asked about holiday festivities, more than twice as many seniors responding would choose a large family dinner with plenty of noise and children over a smaller dinner with individuals or small groups. Some also suggested certificates for the kind of “work projects” they found difficult from children and grandchildren.

Another item mentioned by nearly every person responding to the survey: family photos. Some seniors can view digital photos, but others feel left out when the rest of the family is exchanging news and photos online. The activities of children and grandchildren become lost to them without being handed real old-fashioned photos they can enjoy again and again.

Isn’t it becoming clear here? Seniors don’t really want your presents. They want your presence. They want company, conversation, and to feel a part of the extended family. They want to know their grandchildren better. There is truly nothing more precious and valuable than someone’s time.

So instead of going to the mall, get in the car or on an airplane and make a visit part of your holiday giving. Or send that ticket to your aging relatives and treat them to a trip to your home for the holidays. Create special memories and don’t forget to take plenty of photos that can go home with your relatives.

In case you may be wondering, what gifts do seniors dread opening? Clothing of varying types, or health and beauty products. Everyone who has ever been guilty of giving a boring sweater, a robe and slippers or a bottle of perfume, raise your hand.

Until next time, enjoy the ride in good health!

LifeCycles is intended to provide inspiration and information only. If you are considering any health, dietary, exercise or lifestyle changes based on the information provided here, please seek advice from a qualified professional.
Laurie Edwards-Tate, MS, is President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare in San Diego, California. In addition to her positions as entrepreneur, health care executive, educator, radio segment contributor and media guest, Edwards-Tate is also a wife, daughter, and dog lover. Read more LifeCycles in the Communities at The Washington Times. Follow At Your Home Familycare on Facebook and on Twitter @AYHFamilycare.
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