This is the season to be thankful! Happy Thanksgiving!

Dear Community Friend:

Do you feel as I do? Astounded that the holidays are upon us! Where has this year gone. And soon we will be ringing in a new year.

During this coming Thanksgiving season, those among us who are fortunate and blessed will likely be sharing this tradition with family and friends — and in a variety of meaningful ways.

Thanksgiving literally means “the act or occasion of giving thanks….”

And all of us at At Your Home Familycare are thankful for you!

We are truly thankful for the honor and responsibility of serving our community. Through collaboration and caring, we endeavor the daunting task of serving those who are aged or disabled. Our mutual goal is the enrichment of the quality of their lives.

As we earnestly celebrate this Thanksgiving season, may we be grateful for the synergy which has brought us together in a life of service.

Happiness and blessings!
Laurie Edwards-Tate
President and CEO

 

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“Helpfulness….courtesy….patience.” MM, El Cajon, CA

Rancho Bernardo Community Foundation’s 22nd Annual Thaksgiving Luncheon

Laurie Edwards-Tate with Foundation board member Bob Wells.

Laurie Edwards-Tate, President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare attended the Rancho Bernardo Community Foundation’s 22nd Annual Thaksgiving Luncheon hosted at the Rancho Bernardo Inn.

This annual traditional luncheon benefits the future of community organizations located in Rancho Bernardo, while paying tribute to those who have volunteered their services in this endeavor.

Long-time Foundation board member Bob Wells was honored by a special tribute at this event by board members and the audience, including a video tribute sharing Wells’ story about his over 20 years as a resident and as a community volunteer.  Bob also previously served as the Rancho Bernardo Chamber of Commerce’s CEO.

Laurie Edwards-Tate with Terre Davis, At Your Home Familycare's Client Care Services Manager. Davis has served for over 22 years.

“It is an honor to know someone as genuine and dedicated as Bob Wells, whose energy and commitment to community are inspirational.  Bob truly makes our community a better place,” said Edwards-Tate.

“I wish to thank the Foundation for the opportunity to sponsor one of the event tables while participating in such a beautiful tradition.  It is fun to socialize and see faces old and new. I especially enjoyed the Rancho Bernardo High School Madrigals, a gifted group of high school singers whose talents raised our spirits with their gift of song.”

Parkinson’s Association of San Diego’s “A Symposium for Patients, Families, and Healthcare Providers”

Left: Dr. Ronald Hendrix, Executive Director, Parkinson's Association of San Diego, Right: Mr. Steven Schweitzer, Ambassador, At Your Home Familycare

Steve Schweitzer, Ambassador for At Your Home Familycare, attended the Parkinson’s Association of San Diego’s “A Symposium for Patients, Families, and Healthcare Providers” on November 5, 2011, at the UCSD School of Medicine.

Representing At Your Home Familycare at this event, Schweitzer participated as a Health Fair Sponsor Representative while also enjoying many informative and interactive breakout sessions!

The mission of the Parkinson’s Association of San Diego is to improve the quality of life for those affected by Parkinson’s through education, family services and support of promising research. For more information regarding Parkinson’s disease or the Parkinson’s Association, call (877) 737-7576, or visit www.ParkinsonsAssociation.org.

Laurie Edwards-Tate on “The Rick Amato Show” KCBQ Radio – November 22

Laurie Edwards-Tate, President & CEO of At Your Home Familycare, discusses a shocking episode of elder abuse in the news, a follow-up on seeking new financial elder abuse protections, and checking in on older family and friends over the holidays with talk show host Rick Amato on KCBQ AM 1170, San Diego.

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LifeCycles with Laurie Edwards-Tate – #66

Giving thanks can give you improved health.  I’m Laurie Edwards-Tate with “LifeCycles.”

Gratitude creates optimism. Optimism lowers stress hormones and reduces your risk of chronic disease. Researchers say people who keep gratitude journals have fewer physical problems and less depression.

Taking time daily to list a few reasons you are thankful can enhance your well being. We can all find reasons to be grateful. They can be small things. A sunny day. Simple kindness. A loving pet. Music. Art.

What better time to start than Thanksgiving week?  I am grateful for your positive feedback for our “LifeCycles” reports. Thank you and Happy Thanksgiving!

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Give the Gift of Caring About Aging Relatives This Holiday Season

Weekly column in the Washington Times Communities by Laurie Edwards-Tate

Families look forward to the holidays for the opportunity to visit with relatives who live at a distance, especially parents and grandparents.

Spending time together not only offers the chance to reconnect, it is an ideal time to assess aging in older relatives and determine whether family members might need assistance or adaptations to make their lives safer and more comfortable.

Often, families don’t see their older loved ones functioning on a day-to-day basis. It is not uncommon for adult children who’ve recently seen Mom, Dad, or grandparents in person for the first time in months to be a little shocked by what they find. They’ve been completely unaware of changes to physical and mental health. Relatives, friends and neighbors come to accept the gradual decline and they fail to speak up. Now they must figure out how to help and what kind of help might be needed.

If you are visiting older relatives at their home, be watchful for warning signs of self-neglect, or abuse or neglect by others. It can be difficult to accept, but up to 90 percent of elder abuse is committed by a family members or someone the individual knows.

 

Visiting older relatives during the holidays gives you a chance to assure their comfort and safety. H. Earwicker

You do not want to look away in denial if elder abuse is occurring. But you also do not want to find yourself in the position of making false accusations. How can you tell the difference between abuse and self-neglect?

 

Some warning signs you should look for:

Self-Neglect:

  • Signs of confusion, forgetfulness, or other mental impairment.
  • Individual is no longer able to handle meal preparation, house cleaning, laundry, bathing, or timely bill payment.
  • Signs of depression.
  • Excessive drinking or drug use (including prescription drugs).
  • Frequent falls.
  • Any signs of being undernourished, dehydrated, under-medicated.

Neglect/Abuse By Others:

  • Presence of a new “friend” who is willing to care for the senior for little or no cost.
  • Recent change in banking or spending patterns; someone added to bank accounts.
  • Isolation from longtime friends or family.
  • Older person is “lending” or giving money to a new friend.
  • You find an abundance of mail and/or phone solicitations for money (“You’re our lucky winner!”)
  • Senior seems afraid of angering their friend or caregiver.
  • Unexplained bruises, cuts, presence of bedsores.
  • Older person appears dirty, undernourished, dehydrated, over- or under-medicated, or is not receiving needed care for medical problems.

Be observant while you are visiting. Realize that you may need to arrange a visit to a doctor for a full evaluation. If you suspect that your loved one needs extra assistance before making your trip, plan a longer stay so that you can contact local aging service organizations.

Make the most of your visits by taking some private time with the elder to discuss future planning. Expect anxiety, fear, or signs of depression at their change in circumstances and acknowledge it. Decide together what needs to be done and who can help.

What else can you do to help your loved one?

  • Introduce yourself to responsible neighbors and friends. Give them your address and phone numbers in case of an emergency.
  • Ask your elderly loved ones directly if they are afraid of anyone, if anyone is taking things without their permission, if anyone is asking them to do things they are not comfortable with, or if anyone is bullying them.
  • If you suspect your older loved one is at risk, call Adult Protective Services or law enforcement immediately.

Seniors may not be aware of a gradual decline and may be reluctant to accept reality, or unable to plan for needed care. They may not be aware that with just a few adaptations or minimal assistance, they can stay safely in their homes and maintain their autonomy, dignity, and independence. Checking up on warning signs of self-neglect, abuse or decline can be the most caring holiday gift of all.

UPDATE ON A PREVIOUS LIFECYCLES COLUMN: In “Stamping out elder abuse despite Jerry Brown’s veto,” I discussed the efforts of Liz Sanders to pass legislation adding a layer of protection from financial abuse for seniors and dependent adults in California. Although the legislation was passed, it was then vetoed by Governor Jerry Brown. This has not stopped Liz Sanders’ mission to find ways to prevent financial elder abuse. After my column ran in Communities at Washington Times, I received a personal message from Liz. She told me about some marvelous ideas in the works including some innovative private sector solutions. Liz and I plan to work together and we will be sure to keep you updated on our progress here in the LifeCycles column.

Until next time, enjoy the ride in good health!

LifeCycles is intended to provide inspiration and information only. If you are considering any health, dietary, exercise or lifestyle changes based on the information provided here, please seek advice from a qualified professional.

Laurie Edwards-Tate, MS, is President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare in San Diego, California. In addition to her positions as entrepreneur, health care executive, educator, radio segment contributor and media guest, Edwards-Tate is also a wife, daughter, and dog lover. Read more LifeCycles in the Communities at The Washington Times. Follow At Your Home Familycare on Facebook and on Twitter @AYHFamilycare.
Copyright © 2011 by At Your Home Familycare

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LifeCycles with Laurie Edwards-Tate – #65

Stay young – be a mentor! I’m Laurie Edwards-Tate with “LifeCycles.”

Few things keep you as fresh as teaching your skills to someone else.  Guiding a rising young professional can spark new enthusiasm for your own work.

Find mentoring opportunities through youth groups or universities. Organizations like SCORE, the Service Corps of Retired Executives, connect experienced business people with entrepreneurs.

Mentoring a future leader gives you a chance to pass on your values. It gives you the chance to leave a legacy and take pride in helping make someone’s professional dreams come true.

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Keys to successfully retiring abroad

Weekly column in the Washington Times Communities by Laurie Edwards-Tate

Photo: M. Beyeler

Baby boomers are an adventurous bunch. They have seen the world, and they love it.

It is no real surprise that more people are deciding to retire outside the United States, finding a place where the cost of living allows their dollar to go farther, the weather is warm and they feel welcomed. Of the four million Americans the U.S. State Department estimates are living abroad, one in four or one million people are retirement age.

Start doing some online research, and you will find enticing stories about living on pennies a day under tropical skies with daily housekeeping services and drinks overlooking a sunset view every night. Couples live like kings and queens on nothing more than a Social Security check.

As the economy continues to struggle in the United States, these stories are alluring. Should you consider retiring abroad? There are good reasons to consider it. But you must do plenty of homework, and be honest with yourself about your needs, your lifestyle and your limitations.

The art of retiring abroad: do your homework first. Photo: John Nettleton.

Websites like TopRetirements.com have good advice on making decisions about retiring abroad and choosing a place that is right for you.

 

Financial Considerations

  • What are the tax laws? How will they affect your personal financial situation? It is imperative to discuss this with an accountant or tax expert.
  • If you need to receive payments from the U.S. from Social Security or a pension, how do you get money to yourself from outside the U.S.?
  • Are there restrictions on buying real estate or land ownership for foreigners?

Health and Safety

  • What kind of medical care is available? How will you pay for it?
  • Do you have a specialized condition that requires a unique type of care?
  • Do you feel comfortable being treated in a foreign country?
  • Do you have any condition that requires emergency treatment on occasion? If you need to get to the United States, is there a way to do so quickly?
  • What is the crime rate? Will you be trapped in a gated community because you are too fearful to travel to more urban areas due to crime?

Culture and Leisure

  • Will you be welcomed as a foreigner? Are Americans well regarded, or will you be ostracized to an expatriate community?
  • Are you open to a new culture and learning another langugage? Or would you rather keep to yourself? Is English widely spoken?
  • What kind of leisure activities are available? Are you able to do things you enjoy easily?
  • Are you comfortable with the type of weather common to the place you are considering? If you hate warm weather and humidity, the tropics are not for you.
  • Are you OK witnessing widespread poverty, or will it depress you?
  • What is the political situation? Is it stable? Are the laws something you can live with?
  • Are you a Type A personality? The laid back culture of many countries and the leisurely pace of doing business frustrates many gung-ho Americans.

Do some serious web surfing to research your options if you are considering retiring abroad.

Family

  • Can you live away from family and friends? Can you afford to visit often? Are family and friends willing and able to visit you? Missing family is the number one reason people return to the United States after retiring abroad.

It is critically important to do your homework. Most experts suggest you rent a home in your chosen community for six months before you make any decision about a permanent move. By then you will have experienced most weather extremes, encountered the everyday problems beyond the positive testimonials, and can make a more informed decision.

No matter how good your situation, it is imperative you have an exit strategy. Political regimes can topple overnight. Prices can rise suddenly, especially if your personal paradise becomes a popular destination for other ex-patriots. Most important, your health may suddenly decline and you need the kind of resources and support system available only back in the United States.

There are numerous lists of the best places to retire. AARP, Forbes Magazine, and TopRetirements.com are among the best. Their top choices year after year include:

Belize and Panama: These Central American nations have excellent weather, are close to the mainland U.S., and English is widely spoken. They actively welcome Americans.

Thailand, Malaysia and Vietnam: Retirees are welcome and the cost of living is low. Weather is agreeable if you don’t mind rain and healthcare is surprisingly good, especially in Thailand. But language barriers can surface, and the political regimes are not always stable.  They are also a long way from the U.S.

France and Italy: Food and culture plus good weather are significant draws, and health care is plentiful and inexpensive. Social services help offset the cost of living. But bureaucracy can be frustrating at times.

Australia, Ireland, and Canada: English speaking nations with stable governments, friendly to Americans with good healthcare. In the case of Australia, it is a long distance from the U.S. Irish and Canadian weather can test many Americans used to milder climates.

The bottom line: do your research, hire a tax expert and determine your priorities. Answer questions honestly and with a clearheaded approach and you will make the right decision for you.

Until next time, enjoy the ride in good health!

LifeCycles is intended to provide inspiration and information only. If you are considering any health, dietary, exercise or lifestyle changes based on the information provided here, please seek advice from a qualified professional.

Laurie Edwards-Tate, MS, is President and CEO of At Your Home Familycare in San Diego, California. In addition to her positions as entrepreneur, health care executive, educator, radio segment contributor and media guest, Edwards-Tate is also a wife, daughter, and dog lover. Read more  LifeCycles in the Communities at The Washington Times. Follow At Your Home Familycare on Facebook and on Twitter @AYHFamilycare.
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